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Wednesday, January 19, 2005 2:06 PM

This is another one of those days where I'll probably smack myself in the face for blogging about something that I will (in time to come) contradict. How many times have I done that already? Haha. That wasn't a question although there was a cute little question mark there. That was a statement.

Whatever it is, aiya, just came across another gross "blog-reader-pissed-with-blog-content-despite-disclaimer" incident. Been seeing those since the day I started blogging, but it wasn't until mid-last year when I had my hands on- playing a part in the whole fiasco (and a nasty incident it was indeed, quite unsettling too). And it did teach me a lesson or two which I will share because I think I haven't grown from the incident and might do it again so by blogging this I shall slap myself in the face for my stupidity when I actually repeat a mistake again.

Whatever it is, it taught me that everything on the web whether it may be nasty or nice or covered with the pasting of a disclaimer, is never hundred percent 'protected'. Lemme illustrate. The disclaimer is like a condom lah. Whether or not you wear it, there is still a risk of contracting some very very sexually transmitted disease or whatever and you might get AIDS also because a condom is just a piece of rubber. Same thing! Your disclaimer is just a patch of words on your blog, it doesn't guarrentee you safety at all! So like they always say, "Play safe! Abstinence!"

Don't blog about stuff with the mindset that a disclaimer gives you the right of speech. It doesn't. Accept the reality and unfairness of life. You are not living in the USA, you're living in a conservative Asian community in Singapore where little hints of displeasure is taken as a personal attack on mentioned person or people. We have been brought up with the thinking that our lives have to be private and all ours. Mentioning anything at all that doesn't just solely concerns you, even if it's your emotions and how you feel about the matter is seen as being a k-p-o and in the worst case scenerio, just plain makes that unreasonable person furious. But heck lah, that's how almost everyone feels anyway. It's like I already mentioned above- Abstinence. Don't mention everything. Some things just cannot be blogged, but then again, if you truly feel you have been wronged or just have to blog something before you explode and can't be bothered about the consequence, then hey, go ahead, just be prepared for the after-effects of all that destressing. Like panadol, dishing out angst does relieve, but it doesn't free you from the after-effects of taking those tinny weeny pills.

So having said that, now I can go talk about irritating 'blogders' which is what Wendy Cheng from xiaxue.blogspot.com calls blog readers. (She calls them 'blogders' not irritating by the way.)

Seriously, although I don't approve of using a disclaimer as a shield, I don't really like people coming into my site, reading off the contents and getting pissed over every little thing. (Heh. I haven't had people as bad as that, most had reasons to be angry in my case because I am one insensitive big meanie sometimes!) I'm just randomly commenting on an incident that happened to a friend of a friend.

I don't like it even more when teachers go over to blogs and read off the content.

It is not that I don't want them to, it's just that some teachers are just too immature to deal with the bitchings and rantings students occasionally dish out. That said, again I mean immature as in not mature enough which can mean many things. I mean it the positive way. I'd rather they not know what goes on in the students mind if they cannot take these super bad criticism with a pinch of salt. It gets really horrid, I know, and who can take it? They are human! This I know too. That is why they should just stick their noses to themselves where blogs are concerned. They just won't be able to handle it all. It's like what you don't know won't kill and no news is better than bad news.

Sometimes, curiousity doesn't just kill the cat. It kills the compassion and the empathy housed within. Thus, teachers should just stick to informal conferencing. What's with keeping in, going on friendster/blogs and getting all pissed. It's a STUPID thing to do. And I dare say it is stupid because it definitely is! You go online, stalk your students just to find something bad because no one stops until they find something bad and then get angry! If that isn't stupid what is?

Oh well...

I seriously don't know how to express alot of my feelings without going into extremes and I don't wish to do that, because it might hurt somebody! Our community just isn't open enough or mature enough to deal with free-expression lah. Accept the fact. Gah. Until the day my teachers and friends can accept negative comments without the constructive comments (because sometimes there simply just aren't any!) I will keep much of my feelings to myself. How to say, "Teacher I don't think what you did was right! Because it just isn't! Something tells me so! It comes from deep inside!" And get scolded. Heck. Get the drift?

And the teachers wonder why we don't tell them a thing.

Stupid question.

**carrie**

P.S: I miss dearie! Gonna call him later on. Heh.