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My Take On Gender (In)Equality
Friday, July 08, 2005 1:07 PM

Let me set things straight before I get worked up and everyone misunderstands me.

a) I am not letting my period act up on me and my temper. I just find this un-nerving.
b) I have nothing against Jenny, just his insensitive views toward the weaker vessel.

Jennywawa's comment post has sparked something within. It refuses to end up at the bottom of my stomach. I cannot stomach this sentence which he posted, "Hence being a woman does not give you a bigger price tag than any of us."

Specifically that made me go kaboom inside.

Correction Jenny, it does. It definitely does.

I'm a firm believer that women were made to be the 'weaker vessel' in a sense. Hold your horses aspiring feminists, I'm on your side, just that I meant 'weaker vessel' as in a more emotional, more temperamental way. We don't hold tears in as well. GENERALLY. Make that GENERALLY.

I've seen my mother suffer all because she is a woman. So what if she has a high threshold for pain? So what?

She still suffers.

I don't understand Jenny, why don't you respect that we're all not made equal? We are made differently, of different proportions. And unfortunately, women lose out in the society for now. All we've got is a facade and hidden talent. We're squashed by a male dominated society. Till now, boys and men are still considered 'better' than girls or woman.

Respect your mum Jenny. RESPECT. The physical and mental pain from pregnancy till birth of child, from growing up till growing old. Watching her children grow up... All these are pains.

And most of the time, not many of them benefit from all this pain Jenny. Not all. Not everyone is lucky.
To one day become pregnant, a woman must menstruate. A pain. A helluva emotional rollercoaster. And then comes pregnancy, more pain. Don't tell me a woman does not have a bigger pricetag than men. Don't try to tell me that. Because you see Jenny, guys benefit in the end.

If a guy gets divorced so what?

If a man has an affair so what?

But reverse that.

When a woman gets divorced. Her life is almost certainly turned upside down.

If a woman has an affair she is instantly labelled cheap.

We live in a conservative society although we all think we don't.

Jenny. Pretty shallow to think we're all equal.

I don't think you'll see my point seeing your a guy. But I know guys who will... ... And guess why guys in Singapore cannot get married? Of course women expect more. More relative to the past. But why? Because women lose more in the end. But I don't expect you to understand.

I know where I stand. I know the sacrifices I will have to make one day when I get married or have children. I know how vulnerable it leaves me... All these are pricetags. Don't try telling me we have equal pricetags. We don't.

Equality will never be though we try.

I don't expect you, Jenny, to understand,
carrie